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Divorce Mediation Services

Huntersville Divorce Mediator

Divorce Mediation Services in Mecklenburg County

Unlike some legal matters, family law concerns don’t end when a legal decision is delivered. Parties and their children often must live with the outcome, and each other, for many years to come. Accordingly, it’s not just the decision that matters, but the process you use to get there.

I am an experienced attorney and certified mediator who helps families in Huntersville and the surrounding areas in North Carolina resolve difficult issues associated with divorce in a private, comfortable setting. I can host mediations, or I can travel to you.

Benefits of choosing mediation for your family law disputes:

  • Preserve Relationships: Mediation focuses on open communication and finding common ground, allowing you to maintain a positive relationship with your ex-spouse or co-parent.
  • Cost-Effective: Mediation is generally less expensive than going to court, as it eliminates the need for lengthy legal proceedings and multiple attorney fees.
  • Control and Flexibility: With mediation, you have more control over the outcome and can tailor agreements to meet your unique needs and circumstances.
  • Confidentiality: Mediation sessions are confidential, ensuring your privacy and allowing for open and honest discussions.
  • Quicker Resolution: Mediation typically takes less time than a court battle, allowing you to reach a resolution and move forward with your life more efficiently.

To learn more about my divorce mediation services, call (980) 223-3340or click here to view mediation availability.


Resolve Your Family Disputes Amicably with Mediation

When it comes to resolving family disputes such as divorce, alimony, child custody, and child support issues, mediation offers a more amicable and cost-effective alternative to traditional litigation. At David Self Family Law and Mediation, we specialize in providing neutral and professional mediation services to help you reach mutually beneficial agreements.

Neutral Family Law Mediator for Alimony, Custody, & Support Disputes

In family law mediation, I listen to each side’s objectives and their views of what led to the end of their marriage. When warranted, my firm David Self Family Law & Mediation works with the parties to obtain disclosure of information concerning financial matters, parenting concerns, and other key points.

Once consensus is reached, I can develop a settlement that addresses:

  • Parenting agreements: When a divorce involves children, the primary focus should be on them and their needs. Through careful, compassionate guidance, I help mothers and fathers put aside unnecessary conflicts and forge parenting plans that promote strong, healthy relationships.
  • Financial disputes: Outsiders often don’t understand the value that divorcing spouses place on various assets. Complex issues, such as the allocation of business shares or retirement accounts, can be mishandled without close personal attention. During the mediation process, I consider each side’s priorities and encourage honest dialogue so that a mutually satisfactory conclusion can be reached.
  • High-conflict divorces: Don’t be misled into thinking that mediation only works if the breakup is amicable or only minor disagreements exist. You can assert your rights and pursue your objectives just as forcefully in this setting without placing decision-making power in the hands of a judge. Instead of adding the procedural disputes and high litigation costs to an already tense situation, I will hone in on the key conflicts and help both sides concentrate on what’s important.

Regardless of the stage you’re at in your divorce, or the particular points of disagreement, my firm can outline how mediation might benefit you and your spouse.

Mediation Lets You Maintain Control of the Divorce Process

Using mediation as an alternative to matrimonial litigation gives you the ability to:

  • Protect your privacy: Usually, there are many reasons why a marriage ends, and they often involve private, personal matters that people would never want to talk about in open court. Mediation is confidential. You control where it occurs and how the issues you discuss affect the eventual outcome.
  • Reduce time and costs: The court system is obligated to handle a large amount of cases, which requires extensive scheduling and often leads to long delays while you’re trying to start the next chapter of your life. Mediation can be scheduled quickly, and questions of procedure can be addressed in a short conversation rather than in extended motion practice.
  • Avoid unnecessary aggravation: As a family litigator, I know how taking a case to court can aggravate a situation that is already tense. Adversarial proceedings tend to heighten the stress. In mediation, by contrast, spouses, attorneys, and the certified neutral third party are all dedicated to a common goal.

Huntersville, NC Family Law Mediation Services

If you’re looking to learn more about family law mediation and whether it may be the right approach for your case, I can help. My background in North Carolina family law gives me insight into how courts would rule on disputed issues. Using that knowledge, I work as a Huntersville mediator to guide spouses toward a conclusion that is acceptable to everyone.

How it works: 

Step 1:  Schedule a mediation date from our online calendar.  Not all cases need a full day, but we ask that you dedicate the day to the process and we will do the same. During the online booking, please include all of the requested information, including both parties names and contact information.   Once the session is booked, you will receive an email with a list of documents that will be helpful to bring to the mediation session.

Step 2:  Gather the requested documents and bring them with you to your scheduled mediation session.   David Self will meet with both parties and discuss the scope of issues (typically including Property Division, Child Custody, Child Support, and Spousal Support).  David’s years of family law experience can help guide you as to possible resolutions and pathways to reach an agreement.   After reaching a verbal agreement David will memorialize the details in a document called a Memorandum of Understanding.  Mediators in North Carolina are ethically prohibited from preparing the final settlement document that is signed by the parties. 

Step 3:  After mediation is concluded, both parties will have the opportunity to consult with an attorney of their choice to review the settlement terms. We recommended that at least one spouse retain their own attorney to draft the final settlement document based upon the Memorandum of Understanding.  The final settlement document will be the legally binding document that both parties sign.

Commonly Asked Questions

What is mediation?

Mediation is a voluntary and confidential process in which a neutral third party, called a mediator, helps parties in a dispute communicate, understand each other's perspectives, and work towards a mutually acceptable resolution.

How does mediation work?

In mediation, the mediator facilitates discussions between the parties, helping them identify their interests and explore possible solutions. The mediator does not make decisions for the parties but assists them in reaching their own agreements.

What are the benefits of mediation?

Mediation allows parties to maintain control over the outcome of their dispute. It is often faster, less expensive, and less adversarial than going to court. Mediation also promotes communication and cooperation between the parties, which can help preserve relationships.

How long does mediation usually take?

The length of mediation can vary depending on the complexity of the issues and the willingness of the parties to collaborate. Some mediations can be resolved in a few hours, while others may require multiple sessions spread over several weeks or months.

Our experienced mediators in Cornelius, NC, are dedicated to guiding you through the mediation process with compassion, professionalism, and a commitment to helping you find the best solutions for your family.


To get started, call (980) 223-3340or fill out our click here to view mediation availability.


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